Sunday, March 3, 2013

Friday, March 1, 2013

The Final Shot: Travis Alexander

Last  photo  of Travis Alexander  taken
by Jodi Arias  before she killed him.  
This is the last photo ever taken of Travis Alexander.

His accused murderer, Jodi Arias, 32, took the photo of Alexander, in his Mesa Arizona apartment shower --  right before things turned deadly in June of 2008.

After this picture was taken, Travis was stabbed 27 times, shot twice in the face and his throat was slashed in what the prosecutions claims was a jealous rage. 

Arias' story continues to change. 
In the latest version, she told the jury she killed Alexander in self-defense after  increasing sexual demands, inappropriate behavior and an attack on her. 
Take a look at a Travis' eyes. 
They're haunting. 
I wonder if the conflict started at this point. 
Or was he, as she said, merely posing for a Calvin Klein-like Ad?
To me, he looks scared.
Very scared.
I wonder if she showed him the gun at this point.

Allegedly Jodi attempted to delete the images from the camera. 
Forensics brought them back.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

"Jodi Arias Prosecutor's Like a 'Rabid Dog,' Legal Critic Says"

So I am running very late for the day because I am glued to live testimony on the Jodi Arias trial.
Jodi over- killed her boyfriend Travis Alexander in the shower.
Jodi and Travis Alexander.
Note position of her hand.
I find this murder case, telecast live, fascinating.
Word has it, this is the longest a DEF (Defendant)  has ever been on the stand.
And I can see why.
Jodi is a very good liar.
However, she doesn't know we all know she is lying.
And she is totally unprepared for the relentless prosecutor who must've been a pitbull in a previous life.
Watching prosecutor Juan Martinez cross-examine her is pure poetry in motion for someone like me, who is hired by victims or their families.

I haven't see Jodi cry until today.
That always gets to me... when the killer cries.
Who are they crying for really?
Not the victim...
for themselves.
They cry because they got caught.
They cry because they are going to jail.

Yet Jodi cries what I believe are real tears  as she is directed to look at the crime scene photo.
She knows she is busted then and just breaks down.
Her hand is shaking.
The emotion is real.
Martinez sinks his teeth in and says:

"Ma'am where you crying when you were shooting him?
Were you crying when you were stabbing him?
From Jodi Arias' "My Space"
Were crying when you when you cut his throat?
And you're the one that did this right?
And you're the same individual that lies about all this right?"

That was one laser-guided, heat-seeking scud missile direct to the heart of her lies.
Powerful stuff, Juan Martinez.
Take this girl off the streets.
We don't need another Casey Anthony out there.

If you don't know about this case here's a great link to catch you up.
It's live on InSession, Court TV... and all over the web.

Jodi Arias Prosecutor's Like a 'Rabid Dog,' Legal Critic Says - ABC News

Monday, February 25, 2013

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Locating Inmate Info

Soon, I'll be launching a website and this blog will be moving to a new platform through that site.
If you're with me on Facebook, you'll see I am indeed embracing this whole social media thing...
though like many people, I came to FB and social media, reluctantly.
And I'm still figuring it out.
There's one picture of me on my Facebook wall that's it.
And my back's to the camera.
How does a PI keep a low visual profile in cyber space?
It isn't easy...
yet somehow, it's working.

So as I was  packing up my gear, today, to head out in the field...
I checked the stats on blog readership.
There were many surprises there.
Significant readership worldwide, translated into many languages.
It's wild to know people in Australia, Japan and Siberia  are reading the words I type now.
And it's fascinating to see what blog posts people like... and don't.

Some blog posts are big reader favorites.
One of the biggest, from two years ago, was the Jail Exchange and Inmate Locator, which I'll link you to at the end of this post.

There are  many ways to get  free public info now on warrants, criminal records, mugshots. is a great site to get quick hits on known criminals.

Jerry Sandusky's Mug Shot
Mugshots is a very broad site  and not highly accurate because each state has specific laws on whether they will release info.

So finding your subjects is challenging because the waters are muddied by an overflow of information filled with common names, multiple identities and catfish feeding everywhere.

Criminal records are equally challenging, because there is no single federal criminal depository of records the public can access.
The Feds have access to a national criminal database... even then it's highly restricted.
A police officer or federal agent couldn't use it for a personal or private search, these are protected national records.
P.I.'s subscribe to databases that allow us to pay for criminal records per search.
The accuracy of this info is still questionable, though more credible and can be verified with a deeper look, or hand-pull if necessary.

Free  criminal records are accessible...
however, every county, in every state has its own records.
And I personally question the validity of all records I find on line until i can verify them.
Records are only as good as the people entering them and filled with error.

So a criminal record search has to be done with caution and care...
plus knowledge of every place the subject has lived, passed through, may have been arrested.
Then every record in every state in every county has to be searched

So one of my first stops on a free  criminal search is "The Jail Exchange and Inmate Locator."
Sometimes I hit, sometimes I strike out.
Either way, it's a great place to start, to step up to the plate when running backgrounds, locates.
Here's a link to my post about this site from 2011...

Friday, February 22, 2013

Re: Drew Peterson Case

If you've been following the Drew Peterson case as I have, you may feel the same sense of satisfaction I did on the day he was arrested. And the day he was, at long last, declared guilty.
I couldn't stand the guy.
It was bad enough Peterson was a police officer who got away with killing his first wife.
It got much worse with the missing second wife (still not found); with their kids in his custody; and a third potential wife he was planning to marry. Both wives had life insurance policies.

He flirted with the media, the moth to their bright lights. Yet he was transparent and offensive, it appeared everyone saw through him.
He basked in way more than 15 minutes of fame with an attitude and posture that mocked his victims and his fellow officers.

I worked a murder case many moons ago similar to this one.
Everyone knew our suspect did it --  everyone including the police, the victim's family, the prosecutor, and every investigator on the case, myself included.
Yet still we couldn't get him.
We couldn't get a grand jury to indict him.
We couldn't get anyone to testify against him.
We had evidence. It just wasn't good enough.
So we had to step away and watch him walk away...
and walk back into his life...
back into the arms of  the woman we believed would be his next victim.
A decade passed...
the investigation never really stopped...
though it never really started up again either.
Instead, the case grew cold until one day, the phone rang.
I picked it up and was told the suspect killed himself.
As simple as that.
It's over.
The cold case is now a closed case.

The suspect killed himself for reasons we don't know.
There was a suicide note, it wasn't released.
He left more damage in his wake...
a grieving family...
and the victim's family...
all with questions unanswered because those answers went with the suspect  to his grave.
I think he killed himself because he was haunted.
Either by the victim, his memories of it, or karma.

 Drew Peterson, is still alive and hopefully, not well.
He was just transferred  to prison.
This is a link to the most recent news on his case.Drew Peterson transferred to Pontiac prison

Adele - Skyfall

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Leaving The Nest

Once of the toughest challenges some parents face is the pont of letting go of their child or children...
who have officially become adults.
When the kids leave home, some adults have "empty nest syndrome"  because the couple's relationship,
or the single parent's world, was carefully constructed with the kids as nucleus.
Take out the nucleus and you've got an empty hole.
An empty nest.

In other cases, some adults celebrate and salute their kid's independence...
as I do....
because I think a parent's job is to give their kids wings and instructions to fly on their own.
As Kahlil Gibran said, "Children do not come to us, they come through us."
If they fall, as we did throughout life...
we can only hope they learn, as we did, from their mistakes.

It seems, however, at this time... in this human history,
more and more young people are focused not on the outside world...
rather the cyber world.
Texting has replaced talking.
Skyping is seeing.
And Facebook is believing what is, more often than not, untrue,

Video games have replaced board games.
And video game addiction -- just like a gambling addiction -- is causing more and more young people with enormous potential to blow it all...
to not educate themselves..
to not pursue a career at all...
to feed off  others, like the the young man in the story below, in order to pursue the game.
For video game addicts,  life IS the game. All else is a distraction.

And why not?
Addiction sells.
Gaming is a huge multi billion dollar industry. Like tobacco was once.
The greater the desire, the greater the demand, the greater the sales.
And for some people, the games trigger an adiction that cause some people to give up everything for them.
Most specifically, a  real life in real time.
For an addicted video game player,  the cyber game IS life and everything else is a distraction.

When  heard the story I wrote this blog post preface for...
I needed to confirm its truth.
Once I did that, I decided to post it here.
Because if it blows me away, it's likely to do the the same to someone else.

It's the story of one dad in China, who could not get his adult son to grow up and step away from the game.

While the story doesn't say whether dad's technique worked, I suspect... and have since confirmed...
it failed.
Cyber cattle prods aren't real.

Bottom line....
the story reflects the frustration of so many parents...
and so many young people in today's terrible economic and political environment.
The world is broke, contentious and has turned on its axis.

For the older ones expecting to retire securely...
and the younger ones planning to graduate from school and land a job...
it's not going to happen without a whole lot more effort than we ever anticipated.

And for those currently drowning in the sea of unemployment, reaching for any buoy they can...
that buoy is not in cyberspace.
It's not on Facebook. Not Twitter. Not Texting. Not World of War Craft. Not Video Games.
These are what we call  HOBBIES.
It is WORK that pays the bills.

I think that's what the dad in the article you are about to read... was trying to say.
He just didn't say it well.
And in the end...
the ultimate irony.
His son got trained by paid highly trained assassins to become a better cyber fighter.
So who really was the winner here?

Here are a couple of links to the story. The one is the most detailed.
This one has some real interesting comments at the end.
Curious what you think...

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Stalker Song

RE: The Stalker Song

The above You Tube, the "Stalker Song" a light hearted opening to a very serious topic. I debated posting the song because for some people, stalking is anything but amusing. However, it makes the point without getting too grim.

I think some people today throw the word "stalking" around as if it's a good thing... which it is not.
It's not "you" the person the stalker wants, it's "you" the "object" they wish to possess.
And I think many people have no clue how much personal info they put out about themselves on Facebook.

If you're being stalked, you have no business being on Facebook.
That of course, is just my opinion.
However, it doesn't take much to hack into someone's Facebook account, so if you think your settings are private, they are not.

Stalking is a terrifying and deadly thing.
Sometimes stalkers can be easily stopped.
Their misdirected emotions can, on occasion, be re-directed through other channels. Sometimes a discussion with the stalker and/or his family about the legal of implications of stalking does the trick.

Other times a letter from an attorney can keep the wolf at bay.

In many cases, the police and a temporary or permanent restrainer are all it takes.

Yet in some cases..... nothing works.
The situation changes from annoying (see video below)... to deadly.

Rebecca Shaffer's case sparked anti-stalking laws in California.
For those old enough to remember and young enough to discover it on Hulu or Netflix, Rebecca was on "Mork and Mindy."

She didn't stand a chance the minute the guy showed up at her door.
And how did he get her address?
He hired a P.I. to give it to him!

Which is why, when you hire a good, licensed, ethical P.I., you won't find someone a potential client is looking for unless you can prove no harm will come to that someone.
And still you won't get an address or phone number out of the P.I. without an all clear.
A good P.I. will act as an intermediary before giving a client a subject's information.
It has to be okay with the subject or it doesn't happen.

Many stalkers are indeed wolves in sheep's clothing.
Some do look crazy on the outside and you can see them coming.
However, the majority, in my experience, appear normal at first.
Yet, look deeper and you can see...
most stalkers aren't all there.
The elevator does not go to the top.
They're a few beers shy of six pack.
Ans a stalker and a gun, knife, battery acid,  zip ties and a taser... is a weapon of individual or mass destruction.

Some stalkers feed on the negative attention they get...
so the more people focus on stopping the stalker, the more he or she feeds into it...
and the stalking escalates.

Certainly, many  stalkers focus on the rick and famous.
Not only was John Lennon of the Beatles killed by a man who stalked and shot him  down..
Lennon's dear friend and Beatle's band mate George Harrison had a knife plunged into his body by a stalker who broke into Harrison's home while he and his wife slept.
That stalker has since died, and some say it's George's version of karmic justice. Here's that link:

There are countless lists and information from police agencies and stalking experts on how to stop a stalker. The purpose of this post is not to stop stalking... rather, to make you aware... whether you care or not... whatever you post on the net about yourself, is fodder for someone else. And if you have a stalker, whether you know it or not, you are ripe for the picking when you lay all your goodies out of on the table.

You could post a picture of your kid a pedophile gloms onto. Add a little adobe photo shop, air brushing, a nude body and your kid's picture is for sale to pedophiles worldwide.
You could post about a vacation you are on, then a stalker or thief will know you are not home.
You can post pictures of your friends, family and you've given a stalker a road map to your life.
An identity to steal.
And one smart-ass remark you make on your Facebook page in anger, can backfire and cost you your job, friends, family.... or worse, your life.
Check out this link...

If you are being stalked and can't stop it... or  it's escalating,  you need back-up.
Contact the police, an attorney, a P.I, the FBI, anyone who will listen.
In the meantime, these ten tips may help.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

" Back To the Start" with The Scientist & Original Rap - Live

Back To The Start

One thing life does not offer is "do-overs".
When we blow an opportunity...
walk away from something good...
tell someone something cruel...
knowingly do something unethical, immoral or instantly regrettable...
we deal with the consequences.
There's no chance for an instant replay, a rewind, a"go back" to the start.

If you've made mistakes in your life, you're not alone.
I'm an expert in that department.
Not only do I have a lifetime of mistakes in my baggage in the shed...
as a PI, our business is all about mistakes and correcting them.
So I deal with human error on a daily basis.
I have learned this...
We learn from our mistakes depending on the way we deal with them.  
We have many choices and paths we  can take to deal with the mistakes we make in life.
Mistakes.... meaning errors or failure due to our own action... or in-action.

When you makes mistakes,  you can make amends.
Learn from from them.
Ignore them.
You can blame someone... or something else.... for your mistakes.
You can review those mistakes, replay them over in your head...
or run the "what-if'" scenario...
the rationalizations about what you did, didn't do, or could have done differently.
The best advice I can ever give anyone is...
don't repeat your mistakes.

And when you make one, don't beat yourself up.
Instead ask yourself one simple question...
"What is the lesson in this?"
When we learn from the lessons life's mistakes teach us...
we can acquire equity... in the form of knowledge...  from those mistakes.
How does a young child learn not to touch a hot stove?
By touching it!
Life is designed to teach us by trial and error,

I don't know about you...
I  prefer not to spend my life looking back in regret, or longing.
My feeling about life is really rather simple.
It is... what it is.
And every day above ground is a good day.

The point of living, in this P.I.'s opinion, is to KEEP living, with integrity, conviction, passion...
to work hard, live well...
to keep growing...
to keep learning...
to keep challenging yourself to change/become  the kind of person you truly want to be.
Once you figure out who that person is.

When you make a mistake, accept you are not perfect.
Or if you think you are perfect, accept you are not.

The following You-Tube speaks to this topic.
When I saw it on a friend's wall,  I decided to post it on the blog.
It is a great performance of a powerful message -- a visceral yearning in so many of us to just go back to the start.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Guest Blogger and Safety Consultant Donna Gunbettie Tackles a Difficult Issue: "Armed Guards In Schools"

As we wrap up the year 2012 and move toward another, it seems important we are realistic and honest about our future. Sandy Hook is on the minds of us all. I've spent some time writing my thoughts (for what they're worth) about recent events and my observations about the responses I've observed. If you feel compelled to share my thoughts shared below please do so. If you desire to participate in a constructive (constructive being the operative word here), interactive manner please contribute here.

Armed Guards In Schools?

As 2012 ends and we look toward a new year, we find ourselves, as a nation, searching for answers to deal with the Sandy Hook tragedy. The magnitude of the violence against so many children in a place considered a foundational element of childhood sent many into a state of shock and sent others into a tailspin of negativity and confusion. Still others launched into activity conceiving poorly thought out solutions for protecting our schools and children. Arguments related to gun control and gun ownership further complicated and diluted conversations about appropriate “next steps” for protecting schools in the future.

The depth of loss in Sandy Hook requires us to be decisive, timely, and realistic about what is possible and necessary. We must do away with any hyperbole designed to distract us from the task at hand. The task at hand is to develop an in-depth security program to protect children NOW.

Gun control discussions must not delay or deflect from the urgent need to develop a school security program. The loss of life at Sandy Hook has forced the hand of the nation to address the issue of security in the schools. In much the same manner as the TSA agency was formed following the events of 9/11, the Sandy Hook tragedy requires a substantive and actionable plan for moving forward.

Fear related to the concept of armed guards in schools is understandable. To most, the “armed” aspect of the proposal seems the least agreeable. Conversations from coffee houses to social media sites suggest for many the vision of “armed guards” looks like what has been portrayed of guards in prison and war movies.

Those who will be most impacted by the addition of any security program want to know the school environment and culture which children, parents and staff are accustomed to will be maintained. Parents and staff want to ensure their children’s atmosphere will not be negatively altered by the addition of an individual who may be a daily reminder of what happened in Sandy Hook Elementary. Putting a “body with a gun” in any school could possibly be psychologically damaging to the children and the staff if the culture of each school is not taken into account when choosing a particular security specialist.

The primary role of any school protector would be to ensure the security and safety of the children and the school in the least intrusive manner. The security professional must be an integrated school presence; a beacon of safety and positive influence for the students, families and staff. Any armed protector should become an organic part of the staff and blend in with the culture of the school in which they are hired. Children, parents, and staff would accept this person as the “Security Teacher” not as the “guard” who will kill any bad guys who try to get in because the protector would look like any other teacher or staff member in the school in terms of dress and demeanor. It would never be a point of consideration or concern for children, parents or staff to know this particular staff member is armed.

Many calling for armed guards in the schools have assumed developing a school security program is as simple as placing off-duty or retired police officers in schools. This single layer of safety, an armed presence in the schools, would be grossly inadequate however and stressful for children who might view the sudden addition of a police officer as evidence “some bad guy” with a gun is coming to their school one day soon. In order to fully protect the safety of the schools and those within, a comprehensive program with several levels of security must be designed and implemented by protection specialists who have been trained and work designing safety plans and protecting lives on a daily basis.

Protective services in the schools should be provided by the same type of security professionals who provide protective services to individuals and families who can afford to hire private security. There are hundreds, even thousands of security specialists with advanced training. These specialists have skill and experience using proven processes and methodologies for establishing safety plans and maintaining security on multiple levels.

No one would consider it appropriate to protect the President of the United States with off-duty or retired police officers. While police do make up a supplementary level of security for the POTUS, highly trained security specialists control every aspect of the safety and security of the President and first family. This highest level of protection imaginable is conducted in a manner to provide, as much as possible, a sense of normalcy for the first family as they live their daily lives. This sense of normalcy in a security program for schools is achievable as well provided the correct professionals are given the opportunity to design and implement a multi-level security program in collaboration with school officials, teachers, and staff.

In order to move forward in the wake of Sandy Hook, constructive, proactive conversation needs to begin. The challenge is to create and execute a comprehensive security plan for the public school system. It seems the least we can do in memory of the loss of 26 innocent lives and the promise they held for the future of our nation.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Marijwhatnow? Seattle Police Department's Guide to Legal Marijuana Use In Seattle

On December 6, marijuana will be legal for recreational use in Washington State.
 Colorado's already got a system in place. Washington's still figuring it out.
The Seattle Police decided to take the initiative and published  this informative and uniquely creative guide to help navigate the unknowns.
When you read the blotter, be sure to check out the You Tube that's on it.
It's quite a funny variation on the Hobbit, courtesy of SPD.
Click here:
Marijwhatnow? A Guide to Legal Marijuana Use In Seattle

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Killer Pain Killers - Oxy v. Car Accidents

I added a status quote about this  subject to my Facebook page just now because I've done car accident injury and death investigations a long time and I've never witnessed, or believed a statistic like this...
More Americans are dying now more from painkillers, than automobile accidents.
Across the board, it appears Oxy... OxyContin is the main culprit.
Vicodin, Percoset, and Oxycontin are tripling the hit in Michigan.

There's currently a nationwide shortage of the Oxy medications to legitimate doctors and medical institutions from Florida, to Pittsburgh and Washington.
Florida, Pittsburgh, Washington State, all over.
One reason is a huge rash of pharmacies robberies that started a couple years back.
Here's a link to a message board that discusses the shortage.
And if you are hooked, stroll down, there are resources you can turn to.

So now, people physically dependent on Oxy....
who are cut off from their doctors and too broke for the high price of the pills on the street...
 are choosing other avenues.
Including meth and heroin.
Meth is easy to buy and make.
Heroin is relatively easy to get.
Which is likely the primary reason why heroin addiction is also running more rampant in America than every before in history.

Dealers are now selling Oxy for $40-80 a pill on the streets.
And at that price, there are no guarantees on purity, potency or if the pill contains any Oxy at all. Maybe just baby powder, poison or any number of Oxy look-a-likes.

As for the legitimate doctors... the GP's... PCP's...
It's getting so bad out there, that some  doctors are known to hire a trusted P.I to  find out if a patient...
who is allegedly in chronic pain and the doctor now suspects is  "doctor shopping" or dealing is indeed doing so.
Because a Doctor can lose his or her license for prescribing the wrong drugs or over-prescribing.
Doctors need to protect themselves from a federal government all to eager to prosecute.

So when a suspected addict or dealer, leaves an medical building and no longer shows any physical symptoms ( a limp, slow gate, difficulty getting in and out of car), or goes straight to the street to sell the stuff... a PI could let the Doctor know so the Doctor can assess the threat level.
Legitimate medical professionals need to be protected from this Oxy epidemic every bit as much as the individuals who still depend on these meds, long after their prescriptions have run out.

Not only are prescription pain and allegedly tranquilizing meds killing the users...
these meds cause the users who are not using them for pain in the prescribed manner....
to harm others.
When you are in serious pain, and you take powerful pain med, the meds kills the pain and imho, bring you to a slightly spaced out, sedated normal.
When you are not in physical pain, the prescription pain meds just make you high, if not higher than, a kite.
They also make you dependent... because  the high becomes a monster that grows into  addiction...
that must be fed exponentially higher quantities to survive.
Drug addiction kills relationships and people.
Now... even more than car accidents do.

I would remiss to close this blog without a resource to turn to.
Benzos are incredibly difficult to withdraw from...
so as are painkillers like Oxy.
Since it's no longer considered an outrage to be addicted to medications doctor's prescribe...
people who seek help get respect and are applauded when they brake the chain of addictions.
Please do not get behind the wheel when you are high.
Please do not mix meds.
Do not drink and take meds.
Do not take energy drinks and meds.
Or energy drinks and alcohol.
An altered state is not worth a permanently dead state.
If you need help, don't go to one of those pain management clinics, like the ones in FLA, which are drug dealers in white coats.
Get off the stuff....
and watch the light return to your life.
Here's a link where you, or someone you may know can start... to stop.

Friday, November 16, 2012

"All I want to say is...

..they don't really care about us."

That's how Michael Jackson's song goes and how the inmates at the CPDRC maximum security prison in Cebu Phillipines interpreted it.
The video that follows, was first uploaded to You-Tube by "a" David Beckham.
I don't know if it is "the" David Beckham...
though the slick production and the wardrobe make me think he, or his wife Victoria Beckham, may have had a hand in this.
I've seen several Flash Mob videos out of this prison.
This is, imho, the best, the most well-constructed.... so far.

For those who don't know what a Flash Mob is, here's a a wiki link (not leak).

Seattle has Flash Mobs all the time.
I find them highly entertaining and fascinating.
Usually the folks around a Flash Mob aren't aware of what's happening.
Sometimes people break into random songs...
Other times,
In Seattle we have had Wedding Proposal Flash Mobs...
and Zombie Flash Mobs.
Not so spontaneous creative combustion... though it appears that way.
In a prison, this can't be the case.
The warden and staff have to a part of it for obvious reasons.
And of course, the inmates have nothing but time on their hands to pull it off.

Still, I think this video is powerful and productive on many levels
I know there are Americans in CPDRC.
(Look and you will spot them).
I know many of the people in there are there for drug charges.
Or theft, because those too poor to feed their families will steal.
Some are political enemies.
Others, most certainly, are vicious criminals.
Still, ALL are human beings.
All have a  heart and soul.
All have something to say.
And they choose to say it this way.
I think it's impressive that despite the factions and demographic differences inherent in the prison population, there is unity for these Flash Mobs.
And despite what the inmates claim, there are people who do care about them...
or this You Tube  would not exist.
And you would not have found your way to it.
I hope you enjoy, or at least, appreciate it.
It certainly is different.

To get past the ads on the smaller blog video, double click on the image and it will go full screen.
Or click on the lower right and watch on You Tube.

Maximum Security Prison Flash Mob 2010 -to Michael Jackson

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

"Man run over by wife for not voting against Obama may be disfigured."

This link was sent to me by a friend who is openly NOT an Obama fan.
I do believe he is still reeling from the election as are many people.
According to the story, from ABC15, a man was permanently disfigured because his wife decided to punish him for not agreeing with her political point of view.
How thoughtful. Attack him with a 3,000 pound missile called  a car?
It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see this country... the Unites States... is not particularly united at the moment.
I am seeing posts all over Facebook, from various people in various states circulating petitions to succeeded from the nation.
Impeach the president.
Personally, I think some people have all gone a bit overboard on this election call.Especially this woman.
Gilbert man run over by wife for not voting against Obama may be disfigured - East Valley Tribune: Cop Shop:
And here's a word of advice for those of you involved in  relationship.
It is not necessary for the person you live with, love, a family member or a friend to have the same political and religious beliefs as you do.
It is ill advised to run your husband over just because he's voting differently than you.
Definitely a  marriage deal breaker ...
and guaranteed free room and board at your local jail/prison.

Saturday, November 10, 2012

FACEBOOK BREAK UP: How Facebook Has Been Messing Up Relationships

"It's Complicated"

It's no secret to any of us.
Relationships, of all kinds, are complicated.
Parent, child, siblings, grandparents, friends, co-workers,  neighbors, partners, lovers, spouses.
Sooner or later two heads butt together....
and how each party in the conflict deals with that conflict determines its outcome.
Relationships end or stay together based on each party's willingness, determination and effort to see past the differences and find common ground.
Resolving difference is as simple as accepting those differences with grace, and dignity. No judgment. No condescension. Just respect.

There's a saying the civil justice system.
"In the perfect settlement, no one's happy"
I think that's so true.
No one wants to compromise, really.
People generally want what they want, period.
And if they fall short, their tempers can get short...
and that can shorten the life of a healthy relationship.

Facebook has added a whole new dynamic to relationships today.
While a generation of people are growing up with Facebook,
there's a generation of us that have not.
I am or was one of the have nots.
Meaning, in this context, I have not grown up with Facebook.

I like it, it's interesting and makes following or studying people a whole lot easier.
It's no secret I use Facebook  in my business... and to build my business network.
The social part is a fringe benefit.

As an observer of human nature and behavior, I find it fascinating to see how people all over the world act in a public arena...
when giving a wall, a blank canvas....
to create an image of themselves on.
The images people  choose to reflect to others, of themselves, sometimes astounds me.
Yet as much as I enjoy lurking on Facebook....
and posting....
I know the dangers inherent in this medium.

I know everything that anyone writes on every wall...
every word...
every image...
every f bomb and hissy fit...
is discoverable.
Meaning  if you have an insurance claim, or a legal action.... anything on your  Facebook wall, Twitter Account, Linked in, etc....  can and will be used against you in a court of law.

And if you have a spouse, partner, girlfriend or friend who is lying to you, toying with you, or cheating on you...
chances are good you may find out on Facebook before they even tell you.

I truly believe the most serious things in life are often said in jest.
Humor is subjective, of course.... however, it is undeniably  truthful and telling.
So I thought the above You-Tube was perfect in getting across how Facebook is affecting relationships.
Hats off to the folks who made this.
It's not super slick, very raw. However,  it's very creative.
And I think it's a hoot.... with this powerful underlying message:

People with nothing to hide, hide nothing.
And these days, it's hard to hide lies when you post on Facebook.